“I would happily burn most self help books.
Lucy Hone is different. Her books are meaningful.”
- Steve Braunias, Reading Room
A practical guide to navigating life’s toughest times.
How Will I Ever Get Through This?
Gives you the tools to cope with whatever life has thrown at you, and help you find your way through to Better Days Ahead.
Practical. Science-backed. Deeply human.
Most people think grief only follows a death. But what about the heartbreak of divorce? The loneliness of estrangement? The exhaustion of illness, devastation of infertility, or the shock of redundancy? These ‘living losses’ leave people feeling untethered, isolated, and unseen.
Everywhere I go, I hear the same question:
“How Will I Ever Get Through This?”
Excerpt from How Will I Ever Get Through This?
“Many of you will recall the opening scene of the hit movie Love Actually, when Hugh Grant describes how he imagines the arrivals gate at London’s Heathrow Airport whenever he feels miserable. He only has to picture all those hugs and tears to be reminded that love is everywhere.
Like Hugh, I’m all for love…I do indeed feel it in my fingers and toes. But the years have also taught me another painful truth: wherever there is love, there is loss and grief. Sure, the airport arrivals hall is a joyous place filled with love and affection. But if you wander down the corridor, maybe up an escalator or two, you’ll find a very different story: the tears and misery of the departure gates. Separation and loss are all around us; the grief they spawn affects us all. Yet we live in largely grief-illiterate societies where people fail to recognise any loss besides that related to death.
You don’t need to go to a funeral, hospice, retirement village or hospital to find people battling for their lives, or the lives they hoped for. Loss seeps into every aspect of our communities: our dinner tables, our schools and university campuses, the pub, the cricket pitch, the office Teams meeting, the boardroom, the bedroom and the bingo hall. The toll of loss in our lives is truly staggering.
Loss is the price we pay for love and attachment. It floors us. It leaves its mark upon us, changing us irrevocably. As humans we are hardwired for connection, yet we live in a world of impermanence. We grieve people, places, possessions, projects and status. All types of loss can trigger the grief response - not just death.
Knowing you are grieving makes a world of difference. It opens up so many useful insights and effective strategies that have come from modern bereavement science over the last 30 years. Failing to acknowledge grief means these tools remain elusive to you, leaving you feeling lost and pondering the central question of this chapter, What is wrong with me? Which is why I’m so glad you are reading this book. Recognising you are grieving and being able to name your losses will, surprisingly, make you feel a whole lot better.”
How Will I Ever Get Through This? is the book for you if you’re navigating:
Divorce
Separation
Relationship breakdown
Infertility
Miscarriage
Childlessness
Illness
Redundancy or career upheaval
Estrangement
Dementia
Or, any other painful life transitions.
What People Are Saying About How Will I Ever Get Through This?
“Dr Lucy’s unpacking of the grief that comes with living losses was a lightbulb moment for me.”
— Ellidy Pullin“The best work I know on positive psychology and grief is Lucy Hone’s.”
— Professor Martin Seligman“I cannot recommend this book highly enough. It is honest, generous, and deeply wise.”
— Jillian Coppley, VIA Institute“Lucy’s insights are practical, wise and deeply human - they stay with you long after you read them.”
— Chelsea Pottenger, EQ MindsResilient Grieving (2nd Edition)
In Resilient Grieving, Hone shows us how to harness the (thankfully common) power of our own resilience to work our way through a horrible loss.
'A recommended new book for those who are grieving . . . [Hone's] metaphor for life after loss is both powerful and apt: Think of it as a scattered jigsaw puzzle, where the pieces of one's former life have been scattered and now must be reconfigured in a new way.' - New York Times
If you are sick of feeling helpless and desperate to restore some hope and control, then I wrote this book to show you how. While I cannot remove all the pain of loss, this book shares everything I’ve learned to help you live and grieve at the same time.
