“I would happily burn most self help books.
Lucy Hone is different. Her books are meaningful.”
- Steve Braunias, Reading Room
A practical guide to navigating life’s toughest times.
How Will I Ever Get Through This?
Gives you the tools to cope with whatever life has thrown at you, and help you find your way through to Better Days Ahead.
Practical. Science-backed. Deeply human.
Most people think grief only follows a death. But what about the heartbreak of divorce? The loneliness of estrangement? The exhaustion of illness, devastation of infertility, or the shock of redundancy? These ‘living losses’ leave people feeling untethered, isolated, and unseen.
Everywhere I go, I hear the same question:
“How Will I Ever Get Through This?”
Excerpt from How Will I Ever Get Through This?
“Many of you will recall the opening scene of the hit movie Love Actually, when Hugh Grant describes how he imagines the arrivals gate at London’s Heathrow Airport whenever he feels miserable. He only has to picture all those hugs and tears to be reminded that love is everywhere.
Like Hugh, I’m all for love. Its importance has been proven time and again throughout my life. On our first wedding anniversary I gave Trevor a book and scribbled my favourite quote from War and Peace inside— something about love being the only reality in the world, and ‘all else is folly’. Years later when I was studying for my masters in resilience psychology, we were asked to take psychological tests to identify our personal strengths. The results suggested my number-one strength is the ability to love and be loved.
So, yes, I get the importance and abundance of love. I do indeed feel it in my fingers and toes. But the years have also taught me another painful truth: wherever there is love, there is loss and grief. Sure, the airport arrivals hall is a joyous place filled with love and affection. But if you wander down the corridor, maybe up an escalator or two, you’ll find a very different story: the tears and misery of the departure gates. Separation and loss are all around us; the grief they spawn affects us all. Yet we live in largely grief-illiterate societies where people fail to recognise any loss besides that related to death.”
How Will I Ever Get Through This? is the book for you if you’re navigating:
Divorce
Separation
Relationship breakdown
Infertility
Miscarriage
Childlessness
Illness
Redundancy or career upheaval
Estrangement
Dementia
Or, any other painful life transitions.
What People Are Saying About How Will I Ever Get Through This?
“Dr Lucy’s unpacking of the grief that comes with living losses was a lightbulb moment for me.”
— Ellidy Pullin“The best work I know on positive psychology and grief is Lucy Hone’s.”
— Professor Martin Seligman“I cannot recommend this book highly enough. It is honest, generous, and deeply wise.”
— Jillian Coppley, VIA Institute“Lucy’s insights are practical, wise and deeply human - they stay with you long after you read them.”
— Chelsea Pottenger, EQ MindsResilient Grieving (2nd Edition)
In Resilient Grieving, Hone shows us how to harness the (thankfully common) power of our own resilience to work our way through a horrible loss.
'A recommended new book for those who are grieving . . . [Hone's] metaphor for life after loss is both powerful and apt: Think of it as a scattered jigsaw puzzle, where the pieces of one's former life have been scattered and now must be reconfigured in a new way.' - New York Times
If you are sick of feeling helpless and desperate to restore some hope and control, then I wrote this book to show you how. While I cannot remove all the pain of loss, this book shares everything I’ve learned to help you live and grieve at the same time.
