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The Crossroads Blog
We all want to live well. But we all face crossroads.
What matters is how we respond.
In my blogs you’ll find my responses to questions people ask me, real talk about life and loss, and reflections on navigating tough times with strength, honesty, and compassion. I cover both death losses and living losses too.
Not all posts are about grief. Many are about living well - my wider fascination has always been about how we can cobble together a good life, with meaning and purpose, fun and good times, hope and happiness, despite the inevitable tough stuff. My earliest blogs are raw, written years ago, in the aftermath of Abi’s death. Each blog has a theme label at the top and tags below to help you find more of what you’re looking for.
Over the years, I’ve learned that one person’s question is often shared by many - so if there’s something on your mind, please ask. I’m always open to exploring these topics from a different point of view, and truly believe the best learning flows two ways. You are the expert in your world and I’m here to learn from you.
I’m not into pretence or perfection. Just being human - like you - trying to piece together a life out of the cards we’re dealt. I’m proud to hear these blog conversations have helped many. I hope they help you too.
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How to Talk to Children About Death, Grief and Loss.
People often ask me how to talk to children about death and help them cope with loss. These conversations are so tough - but also critically important. Drawing on grief research and real-world experience, I share how honest conversations can help kids process grief and build lasting emotional resilience.
Control > Option > Command: A New Mental Shortcut for Overthinking.
Overthinking can keep us trapped in destructive loops of anxiety and self-blame. In this short reflection, Dr Lucy Hone introduces her new simple mental shortcut - Control > Option > Command - to help you focus on what you can control, explore your options, and take meaningful action instead of ruminating.
Not All Holidays Are Created Equal – Especially When It Comes to Burnout
Just because it’s called a holiday doesn’t mean it delivers rest. Some leave you more wrung out than when you left. But a recent cycling trip through Sri Lanka reset me in ways I hadn’t expected – and reminded me what kind of break truly restores a burned-out mind.
Is This Helping or Harming?
Is This Helping or Harming? A Simple Tool for Everyday Resilience