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The Fork in the Road
We all want to live well. But we all face forks in the road.
What matters is how we respond.
In my blogs you’ll find my responses to questions people ask me, real talk about life and loss, and reflections on navigating tough times with strength, honesty, and compassion. I cover both death losses and living losses too.
Not all posts are about grief. Many are about living well - my wider fascination has always been about how we can cobble together a good life, with meaning and purpose, fun and good times, hope and happiness, despite the inevitable tough stuff. My earliest blogs are raw, written years ago, in the aftermath of Abi’s death. Each blog has a theme label at the top and tags below to help you find more of what you’re looking for.
Over the years, I’ve learned that one person’s question is often shared by many - so if there’s something on your mind, please ask. I’m always open to exploring these topics from a different point of view, and truly believe the best learning flows two ways. You are the expert in your world and I’m here to learn from you.
I’m not into pretence or perfection. Just being human - like you - trying to piece together a life out of the cards we’re dealt. I’m proud to hear these blog conversations have helped many. I hope they help you too.
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Do You Know Your Tūrangawaewae? Finding Your Place to Stand
Tūrangawaewae is a Māori term meaning “a place to stand” – the place where you feel most yourself and where you belong. A short reflection on why reconnecting with meaningful places matters, especially in uncertain times.
Message in a Bottle: A research-informed classroom ritual to build hope
A research-informed classroom ritual designed to help young people imagine their best possible future. A simple, meaningful activity that supports hope, reflection, and identity during times of change.
We Only Miss Those We Love. Why Goodbyes Hurt So Much
Our eldest heads overseas again. Why do goodbyes hurt so much? A personal reflection on love, impermanence, and learning to live with separation as empty-nesting season is upon us.
Why January Is Hard (and Why You Shouldn’t Take It Personally)
January can be surprisingly hard for many people — not because they’re failing, but because the context is demanding. This piece explores why January bites, and how to approach the year ahead more gently.
Control > Option > Command: A New Mental Shortcut for Overthinking.
Overthinking can keep us trapped in destructive loops of anxiety and self-blame. In this short reflection, Dr Lucy Hone introduces her new simple mental shortcut - Control > Option > Command - to help you focus on what you can control, explore your options, and take meaningful action instead of ruminating.
Not All Holidays Are Created Equal – Especially When It Comes to Burnout
Just because it’s called a holiday doesn’t mean it delivers rest. Some leave you more wrung out than when you left. But a recent cycling trip through Sri Lanka reset me in ways I hadn’t expected – and reminded me what kind of break truly restores a burned-out mind.
Crying In Public: why we should stop hiding our tears
We don’t talk enough about crying in public, yet tears are as human as laughter. On a recent morning in an airport lounge, I found myself overwhelmed by the steady work of holding exhaustion, overwhelm, grief and everyday life together. In this piece, I explore why we feel awkward about tears, what our emotions are trying to tell us, and how small rituals like music or movement can help us cope with moments of overwhelm.
Why Old Friends Matter Most
Friendship isn’t a luxury. It’s one of the few things that holds when the ground gives way. So thank you to my oldest mates - for every effort, shared silence, and reminder that we’re not meant to do life alone.
Hooray for Sister Day!
Today is Sister Day – the name my dear sister, Esther, coined for the intermittent days we get to see each other.